I was always that girl who asked permission first before taking time off from work, or travelling, etc. I even once asked my old boss for permission to get a second job! He said no of course. So, I didn’t take a second job.
Why couldn’t I just take a second job and then tell my boss my new availability? Like, every week you have to email your available hours anyway. So, I could have just said these are my available hours. I’m a dumbass.
I was being bullied at the job so having a second job could have allowed me to quit the job and have back up. damn