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What advice do you wish you got in your early-mid 20’s?

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  1. Compounding interest will make you a millionaire. Even if its a small bi weekly contribution, make it consistent.

    Every birthday, make a list of what makes you happy. Don’t trade or sacrifice those things for anything…except health.

    You will turn into the people you surround yourself with, pick them wisely.

  2. Not advice I wish I got, just advice I wish I followed:
    1) Save money every week, as much as you can. If your company does a 401k match, US IT.
    2) Don’t be a fucking know-it-all. Ask questions. Even if it is on a topic you know, you WILL learn something, and it will help your networking, which…
    3) Network. Meet people. Show them your intelligence and kindness. People will help you if you let them, and the world is SO much easier to navigate with a helping hand.
    4) Get in shape. Build the habit now, your body will thank you in more ways than you can imagine.
    5) Get hobbies. At least 1 social one and 1 alone one. This is a great way to meet people with shared interests, and help hold off the existential dread.
    6) stop thinking that you are out of time, or falling behind. The most powerful weapon you can possibly have is persistence. You will be amazed how young you feel at 35, and how far off old age really is. Your early twenties aren’t the end, they are just the beginning.

  3. Be honest about who you are and what you really want. This will lead to conflict. Everyone will tell you to avoid the conflict because the only thing they want out of you is to use you as a means to further inflate their own egos.

    However, every conflict I have ever been involved in has been as a direct result of my being in a situation that I simply should not have been in, and the conflict was the point where things got better.

    Obviously this advice won’t work for everyone, but if you’re reserved, shy, socially anxious etc, then *run towards conflict, not away from it.*

  4. **They’re not too busy. You’re just not that important to them.**

    This applies to dating as well as friendships. If you’re always trying to get someone to hang out or meet up for coffee or whatever and you always get “maybe” or any version of “I’m busy” without a suggestion of a different time, then you just need to move on. Everybody has things going on in their life, but we make time for the people that matter to us. Took me way too long to figure this out.

  5. Too many but if i had to choose, it’d be surrounding myself with real and positive people as friends since i spent a good portion of my youth being around toxic people who influenced me to do bad shit, all the while being my frenemy at the same time. Nowadays , once i spot a red flag, there is no more relation with that person. Before, i was a doormat with low self esteem who had no direction in life in general. I just stuck with these people because i knew them.

  6. Learn how to run a budget – mainly putting a little aside each pay to make sure all bills are covered.

    Learn how to cook healthy food in batches, freeze what you don’t eat.

    Stay fit – running, cycling, sports, whatever.

    Don’t start smoking. It’s a mugs game.

    Plan stuff all the time, doesn’t need to be expensive, but don’t waste your weekends doing nothing. Walking, hiking, beach, camping, cycling, kayaking, whatever. Get out and interact with the world.

  7. Everyone talks about saving and investing money, but it’s just as important to invest in relationships. There are two ways to do this. You can do it with an objective, always looking for people who can assist you with that objective. It’s incredibly effective.

    Or you can just do it so you’ll have a full room of good friends at your 40th birthday party (and beyond). There’s nothing like the feeling of walking into a large room filled with good friends. It’s worth the effort.

    If you are a natural introvert and just can’t bring yourself to change, then do what I did: marry an extrovert and treat her well so her friends will be your friends. And maybe she’ll help you learn how to make more friends on your own. Of course, you’ll have to get over your introversion long enough to win her love. Also worth it!

    While I’m at it, if you want children start sooner rather than later. I hate to be clinical but I know from first hand experience that fertility begins declining at age 25.

  8. A few things come to mind:

    – Learn how to say “no” and be selfish every now and then.

    – Don’t ever settle for someone.

    – Don’t be afraid to take risks and try new things.

    – Move out as soon as you can, provided that you have the necessary funds.

    – Go a little wild here and there.

  9. Love yourself and accept yourself. You get only one life in this game of life, don’t waste it. Level yourself up at your own pace. Don’t adhere to others’ expectations, and the only thing that holds you back is yourself. Break past that and go further beyond.

    /from an introvert gamer that never quite fit in

  10. 40 something here – Don’t stress so much about trying to make sure I’m making the right decisions about career, relationships, life, etc. For whatever reason, I felt like I had to do it all “right” or else I would somehow regret it and my life would be ruined.

    Guess what – shit isn’t that complicated!

    Keep doing your best and make good and intelligent decisions and don’t second guess it. You will make mistakes. That’s ok! Keep your head high and be confident and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    If you do this, it all kinda works itself out.

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    Also, Enjoy your youth! It goes quickly. Days feel long but years fly by!

  11. Trends change rapidly so be careful how much you spend on something now because it may not be cool in a few months time. Be careful how much of yourself you put into something because your views and ideologies will change with time and you don’t want to be the last person holding onto something because you can’t let it go.

  12. I’m in my mid 20’s but I would tell my younger self:

    1. Happiness is a product of good choices you make. It’s not a long lasting feeling or destination

    2. You don’t really need to know the answer. Whether it be why a relationship didn’t work out, a friendship ended, not getting the job. Just let go of needing to know why and focus on your present

    3. What’s coming is always better than what’s gone. So keep your head up you know more than you think and it will all fall into place. Like it has now

  13. To leave him….. not to stay with your highschool boyfriend… to live your life.. it’s not going to work out. I really wish I would have learned. I’ve lost so many years

  14. Wish I’d listened to my grandfather’s (retired USAF Lt Col) advice to stay on active duty, do 20 years and be retired by age 39. His exact words were “those 20 will go by faster than you think, and even though 39 seems old to you now, you’ll see it really isn’t if you keep yourself in shape.”

  15. Money. Its something I did wrong, and I think most people do as well. We are raised on this idea of pursuing a ‘dream job’ which is utter nonsense. Set realistic & attainable goals, and attain them.

    Pursue a career that pays well, has a good quality of life, and you are content with. Invest/Save that money & you wont have to worry about money anymore. Im at the point where I could buy anything I want worry free, all it would do is delay my retirement.

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    Also when picking a job, ask reasonable questions: ‘Do I want to spend 8 hours a day in the office, do I like my coworkers & want to spend time around them’ etc.

  16. When someone asks you a question, they are not interested in facts or in your opinion, they want you to tell them what they’ve already decided they want you to say.

    Your job in life is just to guess what they want to hear, and tell them.

  17. Learn to love yourself and your quirks.

    I have come to love that I am a bit out there, man. I love that I can enjoy feminine stuff without feeling threatened in any form. Growing up in a very conservative society, I was shamed and bullied for being the odd kid, for being feminine, for not entering puberty as fast as other kids, and for a whole host of other things.

    But I have learned to love myself, and to be me, unapologetically, to do everything and anything that I want to and enjoy and I don’t care if some dude bro gets insulted or feels threatened or whatever else.

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