So, I’ve encountered something a bit weird lately. I started talking to someone lately in the hopes of starting something new, but was asked the question
“how long have you been single?”
I guess I was slightly taken aback by the question, because I hadn’t really thought about it, but I’ve been “officially” single since late 2015. My ex and I still saw each other off an on for about a year after, and talked occasionally until 2018. That’s a whole other story and the last thing I want to do is talk about my ex with someone new. Granted there were a couple things that never really panned out here and there with other people since 2015, but I wouldn’t ever really say that I wasn’t “single” at any point. My life has been strange, and I guess I never found it really surprising that I was single. I moved to drastically different countries twice since then and each time have had to start from scratch in a social sense.Granted, I didn’t elaborate as I did just now and just said “late 2015”.
She seemed sort of dismayed by my answer. It seems so often that the women I know are single for relatively short periods of time, that it seems bizarre to them that I’m past the 5 year mark on being single. I’ve often found myself in situations during my times abroad that I’ve developed more casual relationships and occasional flings, but that never sounds good when you try to explain it to someone you desire a serious relationship with. I’m wondering if anyone else has been dealing with anything similar when meeting someone new after a long period of being single.