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[Serious] What did you do when you felt like continuing a conversation with someone you are pursuing is tedious?

I am currently pursuing a woman and I have made myself clear that I am interested in her. However, it just feels like a chore to have a long and meaningful conversation with her. It always feels like I’m 90% of the time who keeps it alive and going.

Is it time to stop and just look somewhere else or is she just playing hard to get?

For context we’re both 24 years old.

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  1. Move on. Regardless of if she’s doing this intentionally or unintentionally, if communication is an issue then any relationship between you will continue to be strained. Not worth the trouble.

  2. If you don’t like doing it, you should stop.

    I say and mean that fully, but I am also a hypocrite. I have NEVER enjoyed the chase, not even once. Every time has felt like a grind. Add to this, I have never had someone approach me. If I didn’t do all the work, I would still be a virgin. I’m not wildly successful now, mind you. People make it seem like this is fun, easy, and enjoyable, but that’s not my experience at all. That’s also not saying that your journey will be anything like mine either.. i just want to speak from the perspective of a guy that doesn’t have it easy. It’s nobody’s fault, it’s just like that sometimes, I guess.

  3. If she seems unresponsive no matter how much effort you put into talking with her then I think it’s best to just stop and find someone else who would actually appreciate you. Never let yourself be a victim of one sided attraction, you’re gonna get tired or burnt out from it. Actions and how they treat you will always dictate what they truly feel.

  4. It’s time to move on. It shouldn’t feel like a chore to have a conversation with someone, especially someone you want to be with romantically. It also seems like she may not be interested in you and is too polite to outwardly say it.

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