I guess, this could be extended to gay men with abusive fathers too (My Point being, abusive figure of the same ohhh as you’re interested in dating). Men with abusive mothers tend to go for abusive/controlling women to date . How do you actually move out of that abusive system/mindset and trust another woman?
Also, how is your relationship with the said abusive mother? Do you still talk or stay in contact? How do you put up with the “BUT, I’M HIS MOTHER. He should maintain good relations with his mother.”?