Men, what’s the hardest part about being in a relationship for you? Why?
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Men, what’s the hardest part about being in a relationship for you? Why?
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Time alone being misunderstood as a problem in our relationship or me being distant etc . I’m not anti social but I really enjoy spending time alone and need it from time to time.
They want my time more than i want their time.
“What are you thinking about?”
Communication.
The pressure of always needing to be interesting to your partner.
Managing my anxious attachment style
Trying to understand and accept the other person’s feelings.
I’m a very independent person and enjoy taking time for myself. Sometimes I just like doing things on my own and this can be taken the wrong way. I think for guys like this the most important thing is to be upfront about it with proper communication.
I value my solitude. Despite having siblings I basically grew up as an only child because they were much older than I am. People often mistake me wanting time _for myself_ as time _away from them_ and that interpretation can’t be further from the truth.
It has nothing to do with the individual. It’s not that I want to escape anyone or be away from anyone in particular, I just want uninterrupted time to be with my thoughts.
Im also 95% sure I’m autistic even though I haven’t gotten a diagnosis yet. I don’t pay much attention to how what I say or how I act might make other people feel. That’s probably the biggest issue in all my relationships. My current GF is the one who suggested this the first time and we’ve put in a lot of work trying to figure it all out so that we don’t knock heads all the time
Probably that worry in the back of my mind that she can do better than me, and that eventually she’ll leave me for someone better looking.
Not being able to be with other people. I know in poly relationships it’s a thing but most people want monogamous relationships.
Time spent. My gf wants to spend every second together. She wants me to come lay down with her in bed when I get home from work, not even in a sexy way just lay down. I dont know how to explain to her that it’s not that I dont want to spend with her I just need to be by myself for a couple hours. Or do my own thing for a bit.
Communication. I love to do it, but expecting me to open up *when I perceive hostility* is head-spinningly stupid on her part.
Also, alone time. It doesn’t mean I hate you.
Feeling corralled or trapped. Not being heard.
I always want sex more than she wants sex. That puts the onus in me to do all the work to make our sex life satisfying to me.
I realised somewhat early that the chasing we men do initially really sets a bad standard that we then need to undo. So I stopped doing the typical chase stuff, started asking for the woman to put in an effort and chase in the beginning of the relationship. That often went down like a ton of bricks. But I was lucky enough to meet my wife and woooof, its a good relationship.
Hard to quantify, but I’d probably say the constant insecurity, fear of abandonment, jealousy and feeling of being judged for everything I do or say.
Being supportive when they’ve created or had a hand in the problem they’re experiencing.
Like, “I’m sorry your cat got ran over..but this happened to the last one, and you still let THIS one roam freely outside after that, so obviously this situation is acceptable to you.”
It’s hard to be empathetic towards someone when you feel like their problems are caused by them being irresponsible.
At this point in my life, my independent nature is hardcore. It’s probably intensified this past year because of the pandemic. Right now, I feel that I really don’t want to have to explain my thoughts or actions to anyone, whether I want to make a mess in the kitchen making fried chicken, binge watch The Munsters or head out to a titty bar at 11:00 pm.
Meh? Barring a bad relationship I’ve always found it ar least as easy as being single, if not more so. Probably explains my whole serial monogamy history.
Is women really don’t like the truth! I’m not sure why!
Anything I say is just gonna fall back to communication
Finding someone I want to be in one with that also wants to be in one with me
Every 28 days there’s a crisis.
“Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are loved under the condition they provide something.” -Chris Rock
This pretty much sums it up.
Nothing. If something becomes difficult, I’ll just end it.