He has gained quite a lot of weight since March. He hasn’t stepped on the scale but it is very visible. He has a gut when he didn’t previously and he looks heavier. It worries me because he works from home. He’s doing the cooking. He’s not exercising. He’s an ex smoker and HIV+.
I work and come home late and I am unable to cook for us so it’s usually his cooking that we eat. Which is quite fattening because he likes to believe he’s a chef. I have suggested healthier meals and he does cook those but that one dinner meal won’t affect much. It’s very meat and fat heavy.
To give you an idea of his cooking. He finds recipes online that are very indulgent and much more suited for a special meal.
Fried ravioli. Chicken parm with cheese stuffed chicken. Cakes. Homemade donuts. Muffins on the daily. Big two portion steak meals that he eats for himself. Lasagna with a lot of meat and cheese. It’s all heartburn inducing.
Cooking and baking are his hobbies and I get that’s he’s stuck at home and enjoying doing his hobbies but it’s worrying.
He’s positive and according to his doctor that’s not a risk but I still worry a lot. Although I get tested regularly through my employer I am always sick with worry that I’ll be coming him and bringing in the virus. We had a friend not much older than us who was obese pass away from covid.
I have had the heart to heart with him and straight up told him that he has to focus on his health a bit more. He minimised the issue and said he is still within the healthy range, I am sure he is not. He also took it wrong and turned it into a fitness issue. He’s now thinking that I am upset about him not looking chiseled and with a 6 pack because he used to be quite fit. I am not that body type either and I have re-expressed that it is about his health.
How do I get through to him?