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Is true love worth sacrificing and fighting for or is it better to settle for whats easiest and convenient?

Is true love worth sacrificing and fighting for or is it better to settle for whats easiest and convenient?

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  1. You won’t end up being happy for what’s easiest and convenient. But true love isn’t something to fight for. Love is easy. You communicate your issues and work together through situations and both understand you’re there to build something together. If you’re putting an exorbitant amount of effort to get into or maintain a relationship, that’s the wrong person you’re going after.

  2. My true love and our relationship happened to be easiest and most convenient ever.

    Shit, man. We have a *motto*. “Ease and comfort.”

    Because it doesn’t have to be hard. And it isn’t if you’re compatible.

    All that compromise, sacrifice, fight for love shit people pitch is a lie.

    Sure, there’s struggle. But if it’s a theme of your relationship, you’re trying to make something work that isn’t supposed to.

    As /u/greenprotomullet said: Don’t romanticize drama.

    If you’re compatible, you’ll be aligned pretty well.

    If you need to sacrifice and fight for it, it’s probably not the right fit.

  3. Life is **not a fairy tale** .. and happily ever after never mentions Prince Charming having to deal with a layoff, or when the medical bills cut into the home budget, or even marital strain.

    There is no “fight” for love, there’s work. You stroke the embers of the fire or it dies.

  4. I’ve been with my wife for 2 years now, married for 3 months(very small outdoor gathering within state guidelines)

    It’s been great.we don’t argue, ever, we might get snippy with each other once in a while, but that’s usually when one of us has had a bad day. But it is by far the “easiest” relationship I’ve been in, and the happiest.

    All my previous relationships were rollercoaster of emotionally draining drama.

    “True love” should be easy.

  5. Unpopular opinion: there’s no such thing as “true love.” There are lots of similarly compatible partners. Be very picky (especially important for guys to hear). One you’ve married or decided, stick with that decision (especially important for gals to hear).

    The excited and happy feelings fade. At some point, you may even actively despise your spouse. Even if it is *the* global optimal match, aka “The One” (if such a thing could even exist). Such is the way of feelings. Especially for people living with each other for long durations. You have to look for the good, and practice gratitude, humility, and empathy.

  6. i think it depends on the situation! You need to fight once to get your true love? Yeah do it! You need to make some sacrifices for the relationship? You sure need to anyways! Constantly need to sacrifice and fight for someone who otherwise would wants to go? Let them go!

  7. I was just talking to a friend about this the other day, specifically in regard to marriage. Love is a great motivator, but it’s a shaky foundation, long-term, at least the way movies and other media present love. Love (infatuation) is such a fickle emotion, and the teenage version of it fades away a little more as the other person’s flaws become more evident. Part of the reason the divorce rate is so high in America is because people marry someone because of the butterflies they’ve had in their stomach for so long, but when those butterflies die two years down the road, and they’ve got nothing else invested in the marriage, they either die miserable or split. It’s sad, but it’s the product of a plastic, heart-shaped, dollar store idea of what love is.

    “True love” and convenience are the two extremes on the spectrum. A healthy and mature middle ground is finding someone who shares your values and being committed to building a life together. Because then, on the off day that you aren’t feeling that same head-over-heels feeling that maybe got you into the relationship, you can look at the life you’ve built together and be satisfied with that. In a way, that’s true love. In my opinion, “true love” isn’t a feeling, it’s a commitment, and it outlasts emotions, hardships, aging, and everything else. That doesn’t mean it’ll be easy, but long-term it pays out better than settling for what’s convenient now or what makes your heart race today.

  8. Define “fight and sacrifice”

    If that means dropping the biddies and spending time with her instead… develop your life together, then sure. Sacrifice away

    If it means being this chicks bitch boy and slave for the rest of your life, then no

  9. Tough call. True love feels great but that feeling will only for 18 months. After that, it’s your compatibility and the character of the woman that matters. Only the friendship part of the relationship has any longevity.

    Also, don’t ever have a serious relationship with a women you feel is out of your league (unless she really doesn’t understand her value). You’ll inadvertently communicate that she could do better than you and she will believe you, eventually. The only thing keeping most women in a relationship is the belief that she can’t do better than you. That’s a bitter truth to swallow but it is what it is. Happy lies hurt like hell when they shatter against reality, better to hear a hard truth.

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