Me and my girl have been at our new house for about 2 years now and all is well except our neighbor who can’t seem to stand any slightest noise in the neighbor in the evening.
My dog barks (surprise) once or twice every evening every but from the first month we moved in, this neighbor has already made their intentions clear. We will not stand your dog barking as we consider it an affront to the tranquility of our street and house and we can’t sleep.
Since that time, I’ve taken efforts to control the dog on my end but even 99% isn’t completion.
Fast forward to last night while I was in the back, I think my dog barked just once, once again, the wife came storming out of her backyard and directly confronted me (over the wall) “this is the last FUCKING time… I am calling animal control…. We’ve told you a million times already…”and so forth.
Naturally, I bantered back. I was pissed. She was so distasteful in the way she spoke down to me. One couldn’t help but feel in her tone lied a mixture of prejudice (I’m asian, our neighbor is predominantly white), superiority complex, and bigotry.
I’m not questioning that my dog barking is annoying her but the fact that she felt the need to escalate to such levels of extreme hostility in the two interactions we’ve had since we moved here tells me she does not intend do go about this peacefully. Regardless of what solid grounds she had, they were thrown out the door the moment she chose to become hostile. I would be open for dialogue if she went about this respectfully and civilized. For her, it’s an issue of power dynamics where one comes out the absolute victor and the other, the defeated. All hope of reaching a peaceful outcome are out the door. I think my mistake was not delivering a decisive real in our first interaction. Instead, I defused the situation the first time in the same manner Chamberlain did in the years leading to WWII by bending over (so to speak) and accepting “peace in our time”
I guess all this did for her was tell her I was someone she could intimidate.
Does she have any legal grounds to take away my dog? She threatened to call animal control and the cops.
How can I deal with hostile neighbors like this? More specifically, I want her to know she cannot speak to me like this if she wants change.