hey guys, deeper question here
I recently got out of a two-year relationship with a girl I loved very much. We weren’t working out for a variety of reasons that arose later in our relationship — we couldn’t have ohhh because of an unfortunate health condition she developed, insecurities compounded, and there was a lot of emotional therapy between us (important context). Our separation was for the best, and I have been making my peace with it.
Recently, I’ve been getting into my “hot guy summer/fall” and wanting to be a hoe and hook up with people and my friends. I’m struggling a bit, though, to define boundaries of emotional support. Of course — I make it clear that I don’t want a relationship, but what’s the limit on providing emotional support to an FWB? It makes me feel all therapist-y and relationship-y again. Do you all worry about coming off as apathetic or relationship-y? What is too much support for a FWB? Too little support?
I’m trying to figure out how men best navigate hookups after getting out of a long-term relationship. Any and all advice is appreciated.