How do you cuddle/sleep with a woman without losing your arm in the process?
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How do you cuddle/sleep with a woman without losing your arm in the process?
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How do you cuddle/sleep with a woman without losing your arm in the process?
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You don’t. The arm must be sacrificed for the greater good. This is the way.
Spoon. Both of your heads on the same pillow. Tuck your arm into the little bit of space between her neck, the bed, and the pillow.
Saves my arm abt 50% of the time
My question has always been how do you cuddle without catching on fire since I’m always hot just by myself
Be the little spoon
I’m pretty sure they make pillows just for this now.
Use the space between the edge of her pillow and her neck as a gap through which you can slip you arm in & out. Be sure to have your pillow stick to her the same way, so you won’t have neck pain the next day 🤟
Just a necessary sacrifice
Just wanna add a female perspective here, just tell her if your arm’s gonna die. Unless she’s a really shit person she won’t mind shuffling around a bit until you find a position where your arm survives and you’re both comfortable. Communication is key, even with cuddling!
There’s an episode of “Friends” where Ross explains it in great details.
I prefer to be the pillow-person of the two and usually I let my partner’s head rest on the conjunction between my chest and shoulder (can’t remember how’s called) instead of my arm, so I can then flex said arm to hug them and have my second arm totally free 🙂
You don’t.
You lose an arm, but you gain a boner. Its a tradeoff.
Don’t be afraid of moving the woman. She isn’t fragile or shouldn’t be.
Sometimes, losing your arm just to be with your beloved is worth it.
You could lay on your back
That’s the neat part. You don’t.
It’s one or the other. Choose wisely.
That’s a very good question. The first girlfriend I slept with regularly I sneeked out of the bed when she was asleep and curled up on the floor like a car next to her.
Pretty odd I know but I couldn’t get used to sleeping next to someone.
Be honest about when it’s falling asleep. We don’t care. Just touch our booty or arm. Remain body contact even if it’s just toes.
Unless of course she seems to be inching away. Means she’s a touchless sleeper
I practice the ole Hug N Roll maneuver. It is the most single handed thing that saves a relationship.
Cuddle for a time, then roll away.
Spoon, she faced away, your arm slots in the little space under her neck, other arm drapes over her side.
That way, all you have to worry about is choking to death on her hair.
It’s been years and im still working this out. The amount of times i’ve had dreams that end when i suddenly lose an arm for no reason is staggering. Good part is that my woman doesn’t ask what the hell is wrong with me when i wake up flopping my dead arm around.
Arm draped OVER her, not under, my dude.
I just put my arm under her pillow. Works for me.
Collateral damage dear OP
If I’m the big spoon with another woman I put my arm under the pillow her head is on but have it above where her head is. Sort of in between her head and the bed head. If that makes sense. That way no arm is under no head, but we’re still spooning. I like it like that as a little spoon as well
haha i love this. sleep cuddling isn’t really a long haul
option. if you want to sleep and still maintain bodily contact ask her to sleep on your chest whilst you lie on your back. that way you can get your arms around her and she can do the same. alternatively you can try and place your head on her shoulder or she can do this to you. rather than clamping your arm down it should be fairly free to move around if her head is more on your body than your arm. my bfs fave is sleeping with his head on my chest and im sort of resting my head on his head as we hug sideways facing each other – it’s just comfy, don’t know why.
Hug…..and rooooooooooooooooooooooooolllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
If she sleeps on her side, sleep on your back with an arm threaded under her neck. Lets your hand wander over her spots (breasts, ribs, etc) while minimizing pressure on the cervical nerves.
If I’m laying on my right side, my right arm is usually under her neck and then downward across her chest, left arm is under her arm and crosses upward across her chest her body is pressed against mine very closely and I just hold her. At some point we both wake at the same time, turn over, kiss and say I love you, and then her arm is under mine across my chest holding me. We usually go back and forth like this a few times per night always waking up to smile, kiss, say I love you and then back to sleep. It’s pretty damn sweet. I fucking love her ❤
Easy. Sleep position and cuddle position are two different things.
No joke, it’s called the superman sleeping position. You have one arm up and one arm over her in the spooning position.
Accept your fate. If you can’t find out how to do it on your own you’ll never be able to keep your arm intact.
What I used to do was put it under her pillow when we would spoon and kinda hook it around, propped her head up a little bit so she was comfier and didn’t make my arm fall off. Favorite is definitely still her laying on top of me though, nothing feels that good
That’s the neat part, you don’t
It is possible through pillow positioning under her head, her little spoon on her side and your arm through the gap between her head and her shoulder. Careful though, this might lead to aroha.
I sleep on my own side as should she…
If you’re a decently strong guy and she’s a tiny 90-110 lb woman you should have ZERO issues.
Arm under pillow works for me 🙂
I think the best way is snaking your bottom arm under the pillow and down around them
Amazon makes a pillow you can stick your arm in so it doesn’t go numb. Great for cuddling
Just put your arm under the pillow
Let her wrap both of her arms around you and kinda lay on your back, with one arm around her shoulders
Ive seen pillows with a little tunnel in them for your arm. Might be worth checking out.
Practice, but I can only sleep with someone on my left arm, my right arm just turn of and dies in less then ten minutes
Use a smushable pillow, put it on your stretched out elbow and put her head on top or slightly above the pillow.
If you need to remove arm, its easy because the pillow cushions it and if you want to stay there it will stop your circulation from being cut off and your arm slowly dying on you.
With smushable i mean these tubular airplane pillows, just empty out about 20-35% of the plastic ball stuffing so it isnt so blocky and more malleable. Takes about 15min if you are good at sewing and maybe an hour if you are not.
Love that pillow and cant sleep without one anymore because it molds around your head. Feels like laying on a cloud 😀
Both on the same pillow, arm between said pillow and bed and MOST important; bend your arm!
I very rarely have any problems with that technique.
instead of putting your (right) arm through the gap under her neck, just tuck your arm in under the pillow so that your head would be resting on your forearm if the pillow wasnt there. Sort of like a triangle shape
super comfy, no dead arms, left arm goes around her still to cuddle. i find two pillows helps
(reversible obviously)