I’ve been seeing this guy for 3 months, we see each other once or twice a week for either a date or a hook up at one of our apartments. I am starting to like him because he’s sweet and respectful to me when we’re in person, but there’s always been something a tad bit off about him that I can’t describe. I’m in that stage tho where I’m daydreaming about him being my boyfriend and our future together cuz that’s what girls do. Since we are both currently home with our fams for thanksgiving, he texted me asking to send him nudes so he could see my body while he’s away from me. I told him I’m not comfortable with it. He kept pressuring me, saying things like “why don’t you want to?” “Do you not trust me?” I told him I felt pressured and I didn’t like it. He backed off but then spiraled again and said he would text another girl if I couldn’t give him what he wants. He also said that he really likes hanging out with me but having a girl send him pics and videos is a must for him and he wants to be seeing a girl that wants to send him pics. I just told him again I’m not comfortable yet (even though I’m not sure I ever will be) because I felt like he was threatening to end the relationship if I didn’t send him something and do what he said. I know this is %%%%ed up but I just didn’t want him to dump me right then and there. I’m also an idiot and told him I’d maybe send him something later this week and now that’s def not happening and he says he’s excited to see.
So my question is, how big of a red flag is this? I have no reason to feel guilty for not being OK with sending him nude pics right? We’re not even boyfriend/girlfriend or in a real relationship yet. I thought he liked me for more than ohhh but this makes it pretty clear to me that’s all he’s interested in and he’s manipulating me into getting what he wants which is pictures of my body so he can get off to them.