Long story short: Didn’t get a lot of attention from girls during my teenager years (was very bitter about it), had a physical glow up in the last few years (23 y/o now), now I often catch girls flirting with me/notice that I get looked at in public. Problem is, my dating related insecurities didn’t disappear: I get attached too quickly, develop crushes, reveal it too early and scare girls away (even those, who initiated the contact/date) and feel extremely embarassed afterwards. I’d just like to be a person who can take things slowly, be open for casual things, hook-ups etc. You know, a non-toxic mature ohhhual person. A few days ago I realized that my preference for monogamy probably also boils down to my insecurities.
Did you guys have a similiar problem? Did you overcome it or did you just accept it to be a part of your personality? I think dating is different for men and women, that’s why I’d like to hear some experience from people who share the same experiences as me.